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Posted by psychmom on June 16, 2009, at 19:53:26
Today's session was very draining on us both. I have never seen him like this. He is going through some physcial issues that can be life threatening if he doesn't take care of himself. He admitted some things I have known, but it was nice hearing them.
I am not romanticly in love with him, but I care deeply for him. He has been my parental figure in a way. He has taught me how to grow up and see things in a different way. He care deeply for me, and it is an extremely difficult relationship.
I know i have to utilize the tools we talked about today. I don't want to cause him anymore stress. I wish i could do something for him, but nothing i can do. I gave him a big hug at the end. Yep, boundaries were crossed; i emailed him and told him i had to because it looked like he needed it... He did...
Feel so sad and wish i could do something....
Posted by BirdSong on June 17, 2009, at 0:49:35
In reply to TOday's session, posted by psychmom on June 16, 2009, at 19:53:26
Hello psychmom,
I felt the emotion in your post and I can imagine you are feeling drained.
While your relationship with your T is one of mutual caring, please remember that you are not responsible for "taking care" of your therapist.
And in fact, some T's might consider his "sharing" of his issues a major boundary violation, because it burdens you, the client. As you stated "I don't want to cause him anymore stress."
Remember that therapy is about you and T's are responsible for taking care of themselves.
When a T's issues start "coming into the space" and burdening a client, it is time for the T to reassess.Take care of yourself and I hope your T is ok.
Posted by Dinah on June 17, 2009, at 5:03:39
In reply to TOday's session, posted by psychmom on June 16, 2009, at 19:53:26
:(
Your post has a note of melancholy in it that was missing the other night. Is he going to be able to continue as your therapist?
Boundaries are very good, but there come times in a long term relationship where life issues intrude such that not explaining them would cause more pain to a client than explaining them, in my experience. My fertile imagination tends to invent explanations that are more about me than the reality, and I find the reality rather soothing in contrast, no matter how distressing it may also be.
(((Psychmom's therapist)))
(((((((Psychmom)))))))
Posted by psychmom on June 17, 2009, at 11:49:40
In reply to TOday's session, posted by psychmom on June 16, 2009, at 19:53:26
It is really hard today. I just want to be with him. Just sit with him and not say anything. Yesterday when i couldn't describe something i was going through he hit it, "Sometimes there arent any words."
~psychmom
Posted by Phillipa on June 17, 2009, at 12:40:19
In reply to Re: TOday's session, posted by psychmom on June 17, 2009, at 11:49:40
Don't know what's wrong with your T but wishing both of you the best. Phillipa
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