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Posted by Dory on September 16, 2007, at 19:16:00
My life stresses have not eased up and continue to mount.. i don't know what to do about new issues, old issues... so much i need guidance on.. so much i am stuck in. But we have just started past work, and i don't know that it's a good idea to step away from that just yet. i think maybe over time we will go back and forth some, but we have only had one session of past stuff.. too early?
i am unsure of myself. the ground feels unsure under my feet and i am overwhelmed often by floods of memory. There has been a lot building up since that poor attempt years ago.. my mind knows what levers to pull. Something in me has been waiting to do this and it will be hard to keep the flow at a managable rate.
i am afraid to see him, but i cannot wait to see him it seems. i feel i need to.. which is good right? it means maybe i am getting more attached?
i have a fear... i do see a deeper attachment forming, but it's gotten stronger quickly.. and after the call issue. My fear is that it got stronger after i perceived he was doing something hurtful towards me. i once told him it was difficult to attach to him because he treated me too well, he was too nice to me. My last T made a number of mistakes which hurt me, and yet i formed a very very strong attachment to him and very quickly. Maybe i am becoming attached because he hurt me?
so what do i do tomorrow? how do i best spend my $140? current crisis? past work?
Posted by RealMe on September 16, 2007, at 22:14:00
In reply to see T tomorrow... flip a coin?, posted by Dory on September 16, 2007, at 19:16:00
Dory
In my opinion you should go with where you are at now. I have had the same problem. I started to do past work, and then something huge came up in the present that needed to be dealt with, and so we shifted gears. Was okay with T. Then we got back to past stuff, and another time I just didn't feel like I wanted to go there that day, the time I wouldn't tell him he had been cheating me out of time. Therapy is like that. It's not a linear process.
This week, I want to tell my T to go to hell. I am not sure why. But there it is. Maybe it has to do with past stuff; who knows; he seems to find these links all over the place, and I am just annoyed with the once per week for last week and this week due to the holidays. And I guess I am upset with how come sessions are 45 minutes. Bah humbug. And, I don't feel that good about last week and what I said, and he said nothing. I don't need that. He just did not seem to be there with me last week, and I don't know why. H also made his cryptic comment about my work at Menninger's, suggeseting that maybe I wanted to show off. So, screw I say.
My point is that this is what happens with therapy. What is important is to do deal with what might be very pressing. That is not avoiding. The other stuff won't go away, but life does go on too, and things come up related to past sessions and things in ones life at the time. Hope this helps.
RealMe
Posted by muffled on September 16, 2007, at 22:33:59
In reply to see T tomorrow... flip a coin?, posted by Dory on September 16, 2007, at 19:16:00
Well FWIW Dory, I tend to feel a stronger 'bond' after we have got thru a rough patch together and come out the other side.
I think its a natural thing proly.
Realme's answer/ideas seemed really good.
Hope it goes OK for you.
Good luck.
Muffled
Posted by Dory on September 17, 2007, at 0:05:17
In reply to Re: see T tomorrow... flip a coin? » Dory, posted by RealMe on September 16, 2007, at 22:14:00
45 minutes? i get at lesat an hour and we often run over... his fault as much as mine. He really is a nice guy. Although last time he cut me off right at time because so much had been said he wanted to right it all down... he seemed kind of excited. weird. trust me, my life is train wreck but anything but interesting.
thanks for responding... i apreciate it
Posted by Dory on September 17, 2007, at 0:06:44
In reply to Re: see T tomorrow... flip a coin? » Dory, posted by muffled on September 16, 2007, at 22:33:59
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