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Posted by OzLand on July 11, 2007, at 22:55:37
Today my therapist made the comment that he "welcomes" working with me. I am not sure what he means by that. He didn't say he liked me or liked working with me, and if I asked him if he liked me, then we would end up exploring why that was so important to me. I think he would say yes, but we would still have to explore the issue. So, me; I avoid asking. Dumb. It just seems like an odd thing to say that he welcomes working with me. And I don't think he means he is grateful either.
Many therapists would run as fast as they could in the other direction. My previous one was trying to, I think with his telling me a year ago to find someone else and then in early May this year when I decided he was right before; I should find someone else. This was when he was getting angry with me for being upset that my memory sucked after the ECT he recommended for almost two years.
Posted by Racer on July 11, 2007, at 23:25:42
In reply to RE: Comments by Therapist, posted by OzLand on July 11, 2007, at 22:55:37
It's funny -- I had an exchange about this with my T. I didn't ask whether she liked me, because I didn't want to get into that. We talk enough about transference without getting into that, too!
I said something about not really understanding all the people who worry so much about whether or not their Ts like them. I just kinda assume that, if we're able to work well together, it's because we like one another. I think that was a way of checking in with her, and I'm sure she took it that way.
So, I guess I don't understand it -- I just do it?
Posted by peddidle on July 12, 2007, at 10:55:55
In reply to RE: Comments by Therapist, posted by OzLand on July 11, 2007, at 22:55:37
I agree, it seems like an odd comment. I don't know in what context that comment was made, but maybe it was just a poor choice of words. Maybe he meant he looks forward to working with you, or feels that the two of you will work well together.
Posted by susan47 on July 12, 2007, at 19:25:11
In reply to RE: Comments by Therapist, posted by OzLand on July 11, 2007, at 22:55:37
It doesn't seem odd at all in the context that it's his job to encourage you to feel good about yourself. Does he know about your last therapist? That would be a good motivation for him as well. I don't think a good therapist would pass up an opportunity to help a client feel good if that were possible. So I think it sounds like a completely accurate and helpful thing to say, really.
Posted by OzLand on July 12, 2007, at 20:24:53
In reply to RE: Comments by Therapist » OzLand, posted by susan47 on July 12, 2007, at 19:25:11
Yes my therapist knows about my previous therapist and thinks it was not such a good thing how he handled things. My current therapist is a psychoanalyst, and I think he meant he likes working with me. He has said so before. I don't really think he will turn on me like the previous psychiatrist who had no business trying to work with me on the abuse issues. I found an outline I made out for the previous therapist re how we could work on my abuse issues in such a way as for me to not unravel. He thought it was good but never followed it, and though I have worked as a psychologist, you cannot expect the patient to manage and contain this sort of thing in a session. My current therapist is trained and has lots of experience working with abuse issues, eating disorders, etc. So, I think we will work out well. I like him a lot, and I think he likes me. I don't think that is something one can fake unless he or she is a psychopath.
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