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Posted by Happyflower on March 17, 2007, at 14:45:03
I have been feeling a lot of various feelings torwards ending therapy. Some days are good and some days I am in tears for no real reason other than it feels like I am in mourning or something.
I guess the key is to keep busy with life so you don't have time to dwell on things. ( this I learned in therapy). It really helps most of the time. But this week I am off school so it is harder to stay busy.I joined Weight Watchers this week and have been doing very well with the program, I am weighed on Monday, so I hope there will be at least a loss. ;-) I need my body to catch up with my healthy mind. LOL
Well I recently found out that my running friend who is also a T, she is like a mentor to me anyways, she is a lifetime member of WW. So she invited me to go to a different meeting and she would introduce to some of her friends. Sometimes they get together for lunch afterwards or for walking. She is just so awesome and could really be a true friend to me.
Well I also saw my T today at the gym. Things feel more relaxed with him almost intereacting with him seems normal in the public. I was looking outside the windows of the workout place, and he walked by and said good morning to me. He must have just got there because I was just cooling off from my workout.
Then I sometimes study in the lounge after my workout partly because the chairs and tables are at a comfortable height so I don't have to strain my neck. It is mostly quiet there, so it is nice. I find it interesting to watch people come in and then leave, they look so much different when they are all cleaned up with clothes on. LOLWell today my T saw me studying and I noticed him and quickly turned away, but he came up to me and started small talk with me. It was funny because as he was walking torwards me he ran into another guy. It was so cool to see my T in jeans for the first time. It wasn't a long conversation or anything, but it was nice. I guess I will have to get used to this because once I terminate, that is all I will have. So it will be cool not to lose him totally. I will miss picking his brain though. Anyways,I don't know I am posting. I guess not too many post about termination while they are going through it so I hope it will help someone sometime. Well I need to get back to studying, I have 2 exams this week! Yikes! The pressure is on!
Take care,
Happyflower
Posted by canadagirl on March 17, 2007, at 16:27:27
In reply to Trying to get my life together during termination, posted by Happyflower on March 17, 2007, at 14:45:03
It's normal to have mixed feelings about terminating; as someone who's done it 3 times because of the way my insurance works (the last 2x with the same person) I must say it was very hard the first time and I missed him terribly; felt like I had accomplished a lot the second time; and was bored the third time and knew it was time to leave as I'd gone back just because I had some time left to use up. I think there will always be that longing for something- something more than what we can get for an hour a week - but that is natural. I hope you feel that sense of accomplishment and allow yourself a "good goodbye" over a few sessions, get all the feelings out and let yourself feel them as much as you can, now's the time to do that and process it to the fullest. And hopefully you can see him off and on at the gym or whatever so it's not really goodbye and you will always have that connection because of the work you did together. That is what truly lasts.
Posted by Scentedgarden on March 17, 2007, at 17:41:50
In reply to Trying to get my life together during termination, posted by Happyflower on March 17, 2007, at 14:45:03
((((((happyflower)))))
I think ur doing great....!!!!!!!!
plus ur soooo lucky to have such a kool relaxed informal deal going on with him... im jealous as can possible be... lol, but only in a good way... - as im also very happy for you that DO get to have this amazing contact.... with him....!!!!
ur dealing really well with it all IMO....and the breaking down in tears i can deff relate to...as i did it today just listening to a song.... Gloria Estafan... ' i don't wanna let u go' i was on the pc chatting on msn just went over to the window...cried and then went about the rest of the day.... I have 3 left (sessions) and i have no idea how i will leave and walk away on the last day...(tears) i have no idea how i can even talk about it all to anyone... its too precious to say anyhting about ..but thats just how i feel about things that mean so much i dont know how to say it...and i think i will lose the preciousness if i share it or something weird like that.... sorry this is ur post...!!!!yes so i think ur doing fabby reALLY YOU ARE DOING SO WELL... and i believ everything is happening for a reason...i hope we can be a help to each other at this time in our special relationships with out special people...(T'S) -oh and thank you so much SO MUCH for caring about tme so much the other night...you know what I mean.. i could feel ur concern and i really appreciate YOU...thanks also to Dinah...and Maddie as i guess u may well read happyflowers post i will say hi to you now aswell and offer my gratefulness for all your help at this time in my life... THANK YOU for listeningand ur wonderful advise, i just wish i could take it all in... and thank you happyflower for sharing all of this as you go through it... I hope we can all chat again very soon... I look for you there... in babblechat but im so far ahead time wise here GMT, its usally 2am before anyone shows up...lol.... maybe i will b-mail you all if thats ok...>>??GOd bless you Happyflower....much kind thoughts from sg...p.s. good luck with all the study... ur a star!!!!
Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 20, 2007, at 11:03:14
In reply to Trying to get my life together during termination, posted by Happyflower on March 17, 2007, at 14:45:03
HF you sure are a neat person.
Hope your exams went well.
And meeting new friends! Heck she lucky to have you for a friend!
And its cool you'll still see your T around.
Love your posts.
Thanks.
Take care
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