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Posted by orchid on June 1, 2006, at 13:14:49
I think for babblers especially, the old saying "Do unto others as you would have them do to you" needs to be changed to "Do unto you as you would have you do to others"
Seeing the overwhelming positive and good feeling about others, but the extremely critical and negative abuses towards ourselves.
Posted by llrrrpp on June 1, 2006, at 14:36:08
In reply to Do unto you as you would have you do to others, posted by orchid on June 1, 2006, at 13:14:49
yeah, orchid.
sometimes I feel like being hateful to others too. and I am, IRL. I can be a real female canine.but mostly i'm sweet right? a part of me reads my posts on babble feeling like a faker. like it's an act. all those nice things, said to strangers. did i write it to make them feel better? or to make me feel better? Maybe i wrote it to heal my nice side. but... I have a really angry hateful dark voice inside too. i try not to let it post. i try not to let it speak, even. but there it is. Some 47 lines up. and it's ugly. no denying it. but it's true, at least as true as anything else on babble. I don't know why i did it. but it felt good, in a bad way. yeah.
Posted by orchid on June 1, 2006, at 15:07:48
In reply to Re: Do unto you as you would have you do to others, posted by llrrrpp on June 1, 2006, at 14:36:08
The truth is, your posts to others, however nice they are, are not fake. If you had to fake, you simply would have copied someone else's words or advice.
It came from you - from some part of you that has the capacity to understand and forgive and tolerate and feels good things can be done and said to others, inspite of their shortcomings.
You know, saying nice things is not necessarily equal to being 100 % truthful. It is like, you acknowledge the shortcomings (nobody can be that blind to think everyone is 100 % wonderful), but yet you acknowledge the good parts of them also.
It is like you acknowledge the basic living thing within each person, and that is really wonderful for everyone. You wouldn't go and judge a lion or a deer or a cow as being good or bad. Same way, a part of us need and in truth deserve that unconditional acceptance and deserve the goodness from others. And that is what you are giving to others. It is impossible to fake it. No matter how much you try. It comes from possibly some deep seated good will well inside you, which maybe you are not consciously aware of, but it is very much there. Call it the God within you or the soul or whatever, but it does come from you and certainly is not fake.
Posted by orchid on June 1, 2006, at 15:21:31
In reply to If it is a fake, you would have copied it :-) » llrrrpp, posted by orchid on June 1, 2006, at 15:07:48
It is like, when a child first starts writing, they don't get the handwriting perfect or the spelling perfect, but you would think that the child is doing a wonderful job. A part of it is an ackowledgement of the child's effort to learn and grow. There are mistakes, but you know it would go away eventually. I think of that many times when I write posts here. It is a recognition of the child's potential to write perfectly someday and its efforts to grow are what is wonderful. That is what I think of the babblers - their efforts are wonderful and 100 % perfect and very admirable, even though, at that present state, they might still be like a child learning baby steps. Does that make sense?
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