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Posted by spalding on July 21, 2005, at 15:28:16
So, was in session last night and as we were wrapping up, I mentioned an email that I got from a former short-term boyfriend. We've been in touch over the years...he has two adorable boys and a great wife, a great career in a field he was always passionate about (unlike me who stumbled into a field I have no passion about), and it's always a pleasure to hear from him. There is no longing for each other at all...I think just a mutual soft spot for each other.
I related some details from the email and then said to my T, "He's made some great choices in life."
T.: "And at one time, he chose you."
Oh my, he really floored me with that one. I didn't cry then, but am almost crying right now.
Thanks, all.
spalding
Posted by pinkeye on July 21, 2005, at 15:37:51
In reply to poignant moment in session, posted by spalding on July 21, 2005, at 15:28:16
Wow.. that must have been something.. :-). Your T rocked with that comment !!!
Isn't it so nice to receive occassional emails from people in our past? And to look back and see how our lives turned up to be? The bad choices, the good choices?
I have a friend like that too.. I had a huge crush on him, but he was married, but we always ended up with soft corner for each other.. he made such wise decisions, and his marriage is such a bliss and he is such a happy person, and has made great progress in career - I almost envy him sometime and wish I could have been like him.. I wanted to be like him so very badly.. But I couldn't. I kept thinking if I didn't have all my problems, I would have been like him myself.. But it is always nice to receive an occassional email from him.
Posted by 10derHeart on July 21, 2005, at 16:56:44
In reply to poignant moment in session, posted by spalding on July 21, 2005, at 15:28:16
Posted by Damos on July 21, 2005, at 17:17:32
In reply to poignant moment in session, posted by spalding on July 21, 2005, at 15:28:16
Don't worry spalding, I'm having a good cry on your behalf. Gosh, that was just such a beautiful thing to say and the best part is, it's absolutely true.
Posted by spalding on July 21, 2005, at 17:31:21
In reply to Re: poignant moment in session » spalding, posted by pinkeye on July 21, 2005, at 15:37:51
pinkeye, this is exactly how I feel about my situation. He pursued his dream job and got it. Is so together. Happy. And in quite the contrast, I behaved badly at times in our short relationship and was all over the place with undiagnosed BPD. I have my regrets and wish I could have been as single-minded as he...but I'm very glad he's happy.
Thanks for your sage words!
> I have a friend like that too.. I had a huge crush on him, but he was married, but we always ended up with soft corner for each other.. he made such wise decisions, and his marriage is such a bliss and he is such a happy person, and has made great progress in career - I almost envy him sometime and wish I could have been like him.. I wanted to be like him so very badly.. But I couldn't. I kept thinking if I didn't have all my problems, I would have been like him myself.. But it is always nice to receive an occassional email from him.
Posted by spalding on July 21, 2005, at 17:37:14
In reply to Re: poignant moment in session » spalding, posted by Damos on July 21, 2005, at 17:17:32
Posted by spalding on July 21, 2005, at 17:41:51
In reply to Beautiful! Your T. is so excellent ! :-) (nm) » spalding, posted by 10derHeart on July 21, 2005, at 16:56:44
Posted by pinkeye on July 21, 2005, at 17:44:06
In reply to Re: poignant moment in session » pinkeye, posted by spalding on July 21, 2005, at 17:31:21
> pinkeye, this is exactly how I feel about my situation. He pursued his dream job and got it. Is so together. Happy. And in quite the contrast, I behaved badly at times in our short relationship and was all over the place with undiagnosed BPD. I have my regrets and wish I could have been as single-minded as he...but I'm very glad he's happy.
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> Thanks for your sage words!
Yeah - it is sometimes sad when we are not exactly what we wanted to be.. But perhaps it is not too late.. And even with this friend, sometimes I think, it is best we didn't end up together.. We wouldn't have been good together.. My life is much rougher compared to his, and it would have been hard for both of us to adjust to each other's style.. We would have ended up making each others life a mess if we had ended up together.. I am happy for him, but I don't want anything to do with him in my life now.. At a distance it is good, but not with each other. He also told me I am an amazing person, and that he would always like me a lot, and I have the same feeling, but I dont want to be with him or share his life..
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