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Posted by spalding on July 20, 2005, at 15:54:46
Caveat - maybe this will all end up sounding really weird. BTW, I'm female...
Sometimes I really pause at the fact that I have a male pdoc and a male therapist. They are both in private practice but share a handful of patients, who they conference about once a week. So both my pdoc and my T. always know what the other is doing. I see my pdoc every 2 weeks and my T. twice a week. I am encouraged to call and leave messages about anything, schedule more time with either of them, I've talked to both of them on weekends, and on and on.
I laugh to both of them that I am A REALLY GOOD PATIENT (teeth gritted!).
All this is even moreso right now because I'm going through a lot of med adjusting - so both of them are like watchdogs.
Then I also have a hotshot endocrinologist, who treats me for Hashimoto's (autoimmune hypothyroidism) and talks to my pdoc a lot because of the potential for medication interactions (BPD II). Yep, a man, too.
And then my husband! Who flails around sometimes, but is mostly low-key and THERE, when I'm the one spinning around like crazy. I was in the ER a few weeks ago and the ER doc said I should go down on a certain med, and my husband, who hadn't said a word for 2 hours, said, "You shouldn't decrease that dose, Dr. XXX at home said you shouldn't!" Here I am thinking he has no clue as to my meds or even my docs' names, let alone listens when I'm blabbing on about meds.
I'm lucky, I know, but to be in this circle of GUYS, ALL THE TIME, feels very, very strange sometimes. I admit I've never had a lot of female friends, but now I'm wondering if I need a bit of counterbalance in my life. I love my husband and as far as my pdoc and my T. go, I care about them and am utterly grateful that they care for me, but the only place I've gone that even touches transference is that I feel we would be great friends. I'm slightly attracted to my pdoc, but that's been since Day 1 two years ago, and he just got married and I am honestly happy for him and told him such.
Anyway, thanks for listening. I've found lots of comfort here lately.
spalding
Posted by cricket on July 20, 2005, at 19:03:37
In reply to Men, my caretakers, posted by spalding on July 20, 2005, at 15:54:46
Hi Spalding,
I don't have many women in my life either. Once in a while I see a sweet older woman on the street or the subway and there's just a yearning, I'm not sure for what, there.
A few years ago, I was living with my husband, my father-in-law, my step son, my son, and my step-son's son. Five men (ranging in age from 70 to a toddler) actually four generations of the same family and me. They were hardly my caretakers though. Much more the other way around. I don't think I left the kitchen that entire year :)
Posted by Shortelise on July 22, 2005, at 1:19:31
In reply to Men, my caretakers, posted by spalding on July 20, 2005, at 15:54:46
My docs are all men. My husband is also a man. :-)
I used to have a female gyn but she is now tapering off and is letting her new partner take a lot of her patients. He is a wonderful guy, I really like him.
I used to try to see female docs, but finally I understood that I am more comfortable with men in these positions of authority. I tend to compete with women, but with men I can easily find a balance of power.
But women friends. Ah. I could not live without my women friends. I have found myself more inclined toward them since I lost the need to compete with them for the attention of men. I need my women friends.
But I'm nuts, of course.
ShortE
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