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Posted by JLynn on June 2, 2005, at 21:58:40
I had a good session last week with T. I disclosed a lot and although it was hard we made a LOT of progress. Trusting and being more open has made me feel closer to my T and it scares me because I know it will end *someday*. I don't like feeling so attached to her. So in todays session that was all I could think about, but I could not tell her how I felt. And now I am really mad at myself. I'm so overworked and stressed out right now and I feel like my depression is getting worse. So if you can feel your depression getting worse how do you stop it??? I so feel like I need to talk to my T, but I'm not sure if I should call her or what I would say. I have another session next Thurs. so maybe I should just wait. Sorry if this doesn't make sense, I feel like I'm in full panic mode. Thanks in advance to everyone with advice/opinions.
Posted by daisym on June 2, 2005, at 22:54:02
In reply to What to do........., posted by JLynn on June 2, 2005, at 21:58:40
Ah -- the hard part. MAKING yourself talk about what is really on your mind. I struggle with this a lot. I often wonder if I should stop talking about my fears and feelings about my therapist and therapy but instead focus on "the issues." My therapist points out that if it is on my mind, it IS the issue.
If you feel your depression is getting worse, perhaps a call to her to say so would be helpful. Different therapists have different policies about phone calls, but most want to know if you feel worse or upset about something. Is your depression worse because you are worried about your deepening attachment to your therapist? It is really normal to worry about this attachment and how you deal with it when therapy is over. But it is also something that should be talked about in therapy. I think you will find ways to deal with it and ways to think about it if you talk about it.
But...I know this is really, really hard. It is the scariest part of therapy for me.
Posted by Jazzed on June 2, 2005, at 23:10:12
In reply to What to do........., posted by JLynn on June 2, 2005, at 21:58:40
If I were feeling that bad, I'd call and try to get in another session before next week. I hope you can get in to see your T. Nothing wrong with needing an extra session.
The only thing that helps my depression, other than the right meds, which I'm not on right now, is hard exercise. It does something to my body and my mind that relieves the depression temporarily. I think though, if you can get on the right meds, you won't have to constantly fight the depression.
I hope you feel better!Jazzed
Posted by Shortelise on June 3, 2005, at 0:32:52
In reply to What to do........., posted by JLynn on June 2, 2005, at 21:58:40
This attachment to our therapist seems to be a diffficult thing for those of us who feel it intensely.
It's an important part of therapy, and talking about it can be really beneficial..
If it were me, I'd call. I'd explain how attached I feel to her, and how frightening it's feeling.
It is so hard, JLynn. I send you a very warm hug. I think I understand, if that helps.
ShortE
Posted by Dinah on June 3, 2005, at 5:24:36
In reply to What to do........., posted by JLynn on June 2, 2005, at 21:58:40
Do you think maybe all the old abandonment issues are kicking in? That's what happens with me. And with me, there are layers and layers of abandonment issues and resulting fears.
It may feel odd to talk to your therapist about how you feel about her, but that's the way I managed to uncover the core abandonment issues that fueled a lot of my anxiety and depression.
If you have a therapist who likes to work with the therapeutic relationship and the feelings that arise withing it, she'll understand why it's important to talk about it. If your therapist is purely CBT in orientation, you might still be able to bring it up in a CBT context. It depends a *lot* on your therapist.
My therapist generally prefers I call, although he also prefers to work in another session rather than have important discussions on the phone.
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