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Posted by corafree on January 4, 2005, at 14:16:13
Remember how trusting and giving used to be. After traumatic events, may I have become a selfish, focused only on myself, person? Peeps have called me that. Am I?
Are any fellow BPDs encountering a reputation of being selfish? I feel bad 'bout it. Pls share w/ me anyone experienced being called 'selfish' by someone close or not so close.
I can see why I might have become this way; just don't want continuee; want to be understanding and giving again be well today, cf
Posted by littleone on January 4, 2005, at 15:16:53
In reply to Selfishness BPersonalityD, posted by corafree on January 4, 2005, at 14:16:13
I don't have BPD, but I believe that "selfish" characteristics can come through in many ways not limited to that diagnoses.
In the middle of depression, I find that I can appear very selfish (although I try not to think of that way as such). I withdraw and don't give a hoot about anyone. I'm flat out caring about my life, why would I care about someone else's?
I have existential issues. When I look at things from too big a picture, I see that nothing matters, we're all just specks of nothingness in the grand scheme of things. Time too. Today is just a speck of nothingness when you think about foreverness/infinity.
I don't have the mental strength to handle my own issues. I don't have excess to hand out to others.
I have object constancy problems. If you're not with me, I can't even remember you, let alone think or care about you.
Sorry this is such a whiney, self pitying post. Not sure if that's what you meant by selfish.
Posted by corafree on January 4, 2005, at 17:05:47
In reply to Re: Selfishness BPersonalityD » corafree, posted by littleone on January 4, 2005, at 15:16:53
On one level, yes, that's how I look at it. But, there are so many ways of being selfish also. I guilt myself when I do it. Tks for insight, appreciate ... cf
> I don't have BPD, but I believe that "selfish" characteristics can come through in many ways not limited to that diagnoses.
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> In the middle of depression, I find that I can appear very selfish (although I try not to think of that way as such). I withdraw and don't give a hoot about anyone. I'm flat out caring about my life, why would I care about someone else's?
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> I have existential issues. When I look at things from too big a picture, I see that nothing matters, we're all just specks of nothingness in the grand scheme of things. Time too. Today is just a speck of nothingness when you think about foreverness/infinity.
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> I don't have the mental strength to handle my own issues. I don't have excess to hand out to others.
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> I have object constancy problems. If you're not with me, I can't even remember you, let alone think or care about you.
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> Sorry this is such a whiney, self pitying post. Not sure if that's what you meant by selfish.
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