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Posted by tinydancer on August 31, 2004, at 8:07:19
Tommorow is one year for me. I've been thinking about how I would like to mark it, and I had some different ideas, but I'm not really sure what I will end up doing. Meanwhile I wonder how you guys who have been with your T's commemerate the time you have been together, if you do at all.
Any ideas on an acceptable way to express gratitude and mark the time spent? I had actually bought this tiny ceramic hand made cat. (ten dollars) But I don't know, it didn't "feel" right so I have just kept it for now.
Help???
Posted by fallsfall on August 31, 2004, at 11:17:21
In reply to Commemerating One Year with T, posted by tinydancer on August 31, 2004, at 8:07:19
I used to bring cupcakes or donuts with the number of years written on them with frosting. Usually we would take that session and talk about how far we had come and where we wanted to go. Sometimes, though, there was something else going on and on those occasions we just skipped memory lane.
I have a new therapist now - I've been seeing him for 14 months. The time of our "anniversary" was an excruciating time in therapy. I had warned him that I would want to talk about progress, goals, diagnosis etc. But when the day came I was so angry at him and upset that the last thing I wanted to do was bake cupcakes. I didn't mention it and neither did he. I guess I'm a little sad that we didn't celebrate in some way.
There have been posts in the past about "presents" for therapists - you might want to look back at some of those. My therapist was uncertain the first year if she could accept a cupcake from me. But she decided that since I brought two (one for her, one for me), that it was a party, not a present. Just be aware that your therapist's boundaries might mean that she can't accept certain kinds of things - and that doesn't reflect on you at all, it reflects on her philosophy of therapy.
Congrats!
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on August 31, 2004, at 11:52:40
In reply to Commemerating One Year with T, posted by tinydancer on August 31, 2004, at 8:07:19
Tiny, I went thru the same thing in July - one year with my T. I knew he would not accept gifts and I didn't want to write him a card which I knew would just end up in my file, so I just told him that it was a special day, one year together. HE said Happy Anniversary! And then I just told him how much his help has meant to me and how much he meant to me and that there were no words which could properly express how I feel. It was all fine, but I would have preferred to give him a gift. Sometimes his really strict boundaries get to me.
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