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Posted by Speaker on March 8, 2004, at 15:48:58
Hi,
It's been a while since I posted but I have been reading...just not enough energy to post. Today I went to the dentist and had a flashback. I had a session right after and told my T but couldn't go into much detail as I was afraid I would go back there. I felt no compassion and even told him that I dreaded the next few days since I knew they would be terrible. He didn't offer for me to call or anything...he just said try to stay busy and journal if I can...DUH!! Maybe is's just me. I have been seeing this T about 3 months so I don't have a good feel for him. I am trying not to be too hard on him. What do you guys think...am I just being to sensitive?
Posted by DaisyM on March 8, 2004, at 16:51:44
In reply to Flashbacks and Sessions-What do you think?, posted by Speaker on March 8, 2004, at 15:48:58
Speaker, I am so sorry. Flashbacks are really, really scary.
It is interesting that you brought up the dentist. A month or so ago I had a root canal scheduled and was working on some really hard stuff in therapy. I also had to deal with a child abuse situation that came up here at work (parents, not my teachers) on the same day as the dental appointment. My Therapist told me he recommended cancelling the appointment and if I could, waiting awhile as most people feel very very vulnerable in the dentist's chair. I went anyway for lots of complicated reasons and ended up floating away for most of the procedure.
I'm surprised your Therapist didn't offer more support, and help you process the flashback. So no, you are NOT being overly sensitive. Do the positive things with this Therapist out weight the negatives? Otherwise I think 3 months might be long enough to decide you need to look elsewhere for support, if you have that option.
I think you might also consider letting him know that you didn't feel support. Be prepared for the question of "what would you have liked me to do?" because they always seem to ask that.
Take good care. The next few days are bound to be hard. I'd like to know how you are doing.
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 16:52:27
In reply to Flashbacks and Sessions-What do you think?, posted by Speaker on March 8, 2004, at 15:48:58
Hi, did he ever tell you call if you need to and give you his home number or a way to reach him after hours? My T did and just assumes I will call in crisis. IF your T gave you a number OR told you once to call if you ever need to he may THINK you still know that is what he wants you to do. If not I would call anyhow if you need to and see how he is, if he tells you don't call then I...*I* would work on the issue of calls with him or see a new T. Sorry on the flashback and how it made you feel :( I get them once in a while
Posted by shortelise on March 9, 2004, at 12:44:47
In reply to Flashbacks and Sessions-What do you think?, posted by Speaker on March 8, 2004, at 15:48:58
I have to ask my shrink for what I neeed when he can't figure it out. I have to tell him that I need him to say I can call him, or go to see him for an extra session. It's been easier since I figured out that I have to do that with him (and others).
ShortE
Posted by gardenergirl on March 9, 2004, at 23:45:52
In reply to Flashbacks and Sessions-What do you think?, posted by Speaker on March 8, 2004, at 15:48:58
I'm sorry your T was not as supportive as needed. I'm sure it was very scary. Just the dentist alone is scary for me, so if you add that to it...ugh. You are very brave. I hope in the future your T does not let you down.
Take care,
gg
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