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Posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 0:39:15
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 23:41:43
I guess some people might know from old posts that I go to a psychoanalyst, and so lie on a couch. The possibilities for embarrasment are ENDLESS! There you are, open to view, unable to see him, but very aware that he can see everything you do. When I first started lying down on it, I was EXTREMELY nervous; I just couldn't lie still, but would keep flailing my legs around, and getting into awkward positions- all the while trying my best to free-associate and also listen to sometimes alarming and even terrifying comments and interpretations (including ones concerning my body posture and movement) issuing from just behind my right ear. There are two pillows on the couch- one for your head, and one alongside for sitting up and leaning against. The worst day I ever had was when I knocked first one and then the other pillow onto the floor. I sat up to try and retrieve them; but then my necklace came undone and fell to the floor also, along with my purse, which flew open and spilled everything out. I made another desperate grab for those, and FELL OFF THE COUCH MYSELF!
But, he was really terrific. He began laughing and then I did too. We both had a real case of the giggles. All the tension died down (for the time being, we were safely off the topic which had caused all of this.). As I scrabbled around to gather everything up, he told me that he had actually written a paper called "Falling Off the Couch"! He said it happens quite a lot when patients' emotions are really running high. I had never heard of anyone doing that, but I think it was kind of a turning point, as I don't flail around now, the way I used to. That's one thing about the couch- you are trusting your body, as well as your thoughts and feelings- to your analyst. It's really kind of a privilege, you know?
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 0:48:15
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not, posted by Apperceptor on March 8, 2004, at 0:36:59
Lol yes his picture is on the website to his clinics and I have it but I want a good one with a smile and more current..It sits on my hard drive and I look now and then thats it....So I really doubt in light of the fact the he is on the web that he would mind but I can be so shy...I still wanna hire Tinydancer she's brave and can ask :-) MY T always tells me to ask for things (we are working on this..Id rather site back and hope lol) and so on cause I tend not to...boy he might be proud of me but...No hahaha no way..color me shy.
ME I am with you, NO picture of me on the web now or ever.
Posted by Apperceptor on March 8, 2004, at 0:53:14
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor, posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 0:48:15
Let's think of a way to make this an experience for you. I think it will be. I'll get back to you, alright?
Posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 1:53:41
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not, posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 23:30:50
> I like the approach...I wish I remember who said it (?)...of saying you like pictures of those who mean a lot to you.
Hi App, Tiny Dancer here.
I hope I didn't say anything to cause you to feel hurt or put down in any way. I am really happy to have you here. I think you have contributed a lot of worthwhile information here. I just saw that you had quoted me there up above and decided to pipe up...
Barring my insolence, did you understand my point of view and my feelings? You can even email me if you would like:
[xxx]
That goes for anyone of course.
Posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 1:56:27
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 23:41:43
> LOL A, no way would I ask and I know I would not do anything wrong with his picture and he most likey would not mind my asking and give me one...but I would rather send Tinydancer in there to do the job for me :) SHE'S got guts lol ..Thanks and we will see if he does..IF he does it will be posted as a new thread :) for all to see.
HAHA! Well, I don't know if I have guts, I just trust my T a lot and feel safety in asking him whatever is on my mind. But I do have a nasty habit of doing that anyway....I am giggling about this whole "doing something bad" with the picture. Really! Um, I have never done anything bad with ANY picture...Prefer to use my mind with EYES CLOSED...hahaha
Posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 1:58:48
In reply to Re: the couch.., posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 0:39:15
I'm laughing because this is something I would do. When I was dating my husband he was trying to grab me or something and I went the wrong way and fell off the bed. Really hard. We were dressed and everything, I just happened to be laying on the bed. He actually TELLS people about this. It really hurt, although it was pretty funny.
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 2:07:35
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 1:58:48
Yeah - that's the thing about couches and beds - sex is always in the air!
Posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 3:20:38
In reply to Re: the couch.. » tinydancer, posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 2:07:35
> Yeah - that's the thing about couches and beds - sex is always in the air!
LOL!!!!
Posted by fallsfall on March 8, 2004, at 7:05:02
In reply to Re: the couch.., posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 0:39:15
What a great story!!
Posted by shortelise on March 8, 2004, at 9:46:42
In reply to Re: the couch.., posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 0:39:15
lol thanks for the first laugh of my day.
ShortE
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 15:07:44
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Fallen4myT, posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 1:56:27
Oh Tinydancer I have faith in you :) and know your nasty habit of asking could work for me. I so wish I could send you in my place lol...
Now on the matter of using your mind :) you sure thats *all* you use ....giggling. DO NOT ANSWER THAT LOL LMAO!!!!!
Now you have me loling thinking of your T reading this and wondering..are her eyes open or closed right now :) (Fallen bushes AND LOL's her head off)
<Tinydancer said: "HAHA! Well, I don't know if I have guts, I just trust my T a lot and feel safety in asking him whatever is on my mind. But I do have a nasty habit of doing that anyway....I am giggling about this whole "doing something bad" with the picture. Really! Um, I have never done anything bad with ANY picture...Prefer to use my mind with EYES CLOSED...hahaha"
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 15:16:33
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not, posted by Apperceptor on March 8, 2004, at 0:53:14
OK THANKS :) Oh, it will be an experience all right lol :) I shall wait on your ideas. I AM shy so be ready....Maybe you can take a plane here and tell him you're doing a study on T's and need his picture for the yearbook he would never connect us and I want a wallet color shot :) He was in psychology Today once but no picture just some yapping on him...dang!! I am starting to lol more who thought you'd be working on ideas to help someone get a picture of their T wayyyyy too cute :D
> Let's think of a way to make this an experience for you. I think it will be. I'll get back to you, alright?
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 15:22:18
In reply to Re: the couch.., posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 0:39:15
Pfinstegg , I busted out loling so hard when I saw this. I would have died ..and loled at the same time. You sound a tad like me when I am nervous I cannot sit still and move around way too much. I am sooooo glad I do not have to lay on the sofa :D I have an odd sense of humor and the minute the pillows went off I know I would have started to lol when the necklace went....I would have been belly loling but once I left I would have died, then loled then died loling. Your T sounds like he has a GOOD sense of humor and made it easy..I hope you wear slacks :D IN CASE
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 15:51:13
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 15:22:18
Slacks are an ABSOLUTE requirement, no matter what else (lipgloss, manicure, OK hair, polish on shoes) I may or may not be able to muster on a given day. When I imagine myself lying there in a SKIRT and keeping it DOWN, I think, "well, that would be a cured Pfinstegg!" Not happening any time soon. I'm afraid. He's an absolutely wonderful analyst, but we both have our work cut out for us- for several years, at least, I think. Actually, one of my fantasies (for the future) is to wear my prettiest summer dress in there and be able to lie there quietly without having an apparel disaster!
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 16:34:08
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 15:51:13
Summer is coming up eh? :) I vote you wear a pretty summer dress....maybe you can add more lol's to this thread :) See, goofy as I am I would wear a skirt and or dress thats ALL I wear to see my T. I would pray I not fall off the sofa though. Ugh in your therapy he doesnt talk in that kind right? yucko if so
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 8, 2004, at 21:28:11
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Fallen4myT, posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 22:51:47
> I read an EXCELLENT book a few years back called "A Return to Love," by Marianne Williamson, that talks about the incredible power in forgiveness...
I'd just like to plug the double double quotes feature at this site:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#amazon
The first time anyone refers to a book without using this option, I post this to try to make sure he or she at least knows about it. It's just an option, though, and doesn't *have* to be used. If people *choose* not to use it, I'd be interested why not, but I'd like that redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20020918/msgs/7717.html
Thanks!
Bob
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 22:02:07
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 16:34:08
I think it's great that you wear skirts and dresses and look your prettiest for your T! I'll do it when I safely can ( no knees flying up!) HE always looks great, which I appreciate, and I really would like to walk in there in a pink dress and heels. I'm pretty sure he would like it- and of course remark on it, so that we can have an EXTENDED discussion about my sexual feelings for him! (we have quite extensive ones as it is now, and I've got all I can handle for the moment - but there's always the future beckoning. (I did just buy the pink dress last week)
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 22:19:08
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 22:02:07
I think the future is now :) ye got the dress...OMG, youre talking about sex with in IN detail I sooo could not. I wish I had seen your posts on these talks..Go for it..wear the dress on a nice day and make a lunch date for after so if he askes you can say well...lunch..you would not be a liar...just keep your knees together...wow I would LOVE to hear your sessions lol....I do exactly like another poster does I dress like I am going on a date LMAO..really sad but true :) YOU CAN do it. WEAR THE PINK DRESS.....OMG its summer...go for it...then go back to slacks :)
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 22:34:56
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 22:19:08
You're just a sweetheart! Thanks! I'm going to do it when the weather is warmer - and I will watch my knees! Although sex discussions are definitely in, *lunch* is definitely out. He's a sweetheart, too, but the boundaries are ironclad there- sometimes I so wish they weren't..
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 22:47:27
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 22:34:56
Aww thanks and way cool on the dress. Yes pink for spring it is one of the IN colors. I do not think I worded my post too well..what I meant was have a REAL lunch date say with a girlfriend for after T so when he askes why so dressed up...without lying you can say...I am meeting a friend for lunch :D Tis sneaky but hehe would work. Then when you hit him with all the sex talk...he will be looking at legs and thinking......mmmm ya know :)
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 23:01:32
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 22:47:27
Oh, I get what you mean! Well, yes, the sex discussions WOULD be quite a bit more scary if I was lying there in the pink dress with high-heeled sandals on ( I just bought those, too!) But I think I can manage it by summer- now that you've given me this fun challenge, I don't want to let you down!
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 23:10:33
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 23:01:32
Oh man you have a killer outfit so it is a must and I will hold you to it to wear it to see T. I would think the sex talk would be not so scary as titillating :D Think HE CAN see and may ...wish away..heck he may even lose it like the people in Roger Rabbit his eyes may bug out and you may hear....oooooogaha!!!! ohhhhhgaha!!!!! He sits at your head right?????? Oh man you can REALLY get graphic your face is hidden :P I think I may be more excited about this than you lol
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 9, 2004, at 11:49:15
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 23:10:33
I won't let you down - promise! The dress is really a summer one, sleeveless, and the sandals very open; I need a hot day for them; where I am it's presently 38 degrees, so I'm off the hook for a bit.! But when the time comes, I'll do it- maybe with a little tanning spray. When anyone lies on a couch and talks about sex, it's usually tremendously arousing, anyway- I'll just be upping the ante by letting him know how much I wanted to be pretty for him! Would you like to " lie in" for me for a session? What would you wear? He's very tall and fit-looking, with a strong, though not exactly handsome face, lots of grey-black hair- definitely sexy himself!
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 17:04:40
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by Pfinstegg on March 9, 2004, at 11:49:15
wow YOU'RE making me hot lol..I wish I could see and hear all this in person (Good God I am a pervette) I can see why your summer/spring outfit would be a TAD off in lol 38 degrees but imagine what all would pop up :)in your session from all that cold :P Would you really say that to your T?...I lol and blush at this..yet....its sooo the "inner me". I would, if I were you add a lacy pink garder belt and make sure just the very tip of one of the garter and stalking showing...it will draw his mind..alllll the way up as if it isnt already. I still don't know HOW YOU CAN stand up after all that talk and look him in the face ....lol omg...way cool. You are cool I must say :) OK if it were me..I would wear a ...this is sumnmer now and you have pink so...I would wear a white dress...tight and short at the top with a flare in the skirt area..I have one in fact. nylons and heels...I have wore these btw but no couch...short skirt..red accesssories..white lace garder belt. My poor T has seen mini skirts and well outfits that has had to make him think..he even said something non T like once :) I do cross and uncross my legs a lot..Need an idea for winter? :D Youre sooo cool I bet your sessions are a riot. Mine are non cerbal but the message IS there :D
> I won't let you down - promise! The dress is really a summer one, sleeveless, and the sandals very open; I need a hot day for them; where I am it's presently 38 degrees, so I'm off the hook for a bit.! But when the time comes, I'll do it- maybe with a little tanning spray. When anyone lies on a couch and talks about sex, it's usually tremendously arousing, anyway- I'll just be upping the ante by letting him know how much I wanted to be pretty for him! Would you like to " lie in" for me for a session? What would you wear? He's very tall and fit-looking, with a strong, though not exactly handsome face, lots of grey-black hair- definitely sexy himself!
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 17:16:29
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by Pfinstegg on March 9, 2004, at 11:49:15
Btw, I think you and I would rather wear our T's :)
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