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Posted by justyourlaugh on December 6, 2002, at 23:49:39
can i ?
can i start over from here?
really blew it tonight.
want it to go away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
sorry
j
Posted by rayww on December 7, 2002, at 11:38:24
In reply to starting over, posted by justyourlaugh on December 6, 2002, at 23:49:39
Today is the first day of the rest of your life.
Posted by Dinah on December 7, 2002, at 11:47:41
In reply to starting over, posted by justyourlaugh on December 6, 2002, at 23:49:39
Did your actions last night have any serious consequences? I'm afraid one side of the coin is that we have to live with the consequences of our actions.
The other side is that of course you can start over. You have to really. The past is past and can't be changed. You can start over with how you react to the consequences of your actions. You can start over with what choices you make in the future. You can start over in so many ways.
Posted by Pfinstegg on December 9, 2002, at 1:15:15
In reply to starting over, posted by justyourlaugh on December 6, 2002, at 23:49:39
I don't know if this will be relevant or helpful to you, but I find that one thought that helps me when I am feeling a lot of pain is to remind myself that although I didn't CAUSE the pain, exactly, I am responsible for OWNING it and trying to do something to make it better. Just that one thought seems to help me calm down a bit, and then I can start thinking about what, exactly, I might be able to do to improve my dark state of mind. I think the reason that helps me is that I feel a little more in charge, rather than just at the mercy of whatever terrible mood may come along. I think this is one of the things they teach in DBT, although I don't have any personal experience of that.
I know things are very hard for you just now, jyl, and hope you will find it helpful to keep posting here- there are always caring and non-judgemental people listening.
Pfinstegg
Posted by vagen on December 13, 2002, at 7:03:31
In reply to Re: starting over- jyl, posted by Pfinstegg on December 9, 2002, at 1:15:15
You can.
We all do almost every day.
You do have to own your feelings.But, having the right tools makes a big difference.
Do you have a good support system?
That always makes a big difference.
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