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Posted by 2tired4life on November 11, 2007, at 19:46:39
I was informed today by my boyfriend of 3 years that my weight has driven him to want me out of the house. I have been saying for years that I want to lose weight and get down to a cuter weight. 130ish. He says I have no motivation and can not stick to any plan I set. This was harsh but true. I have not really tried too hard to do it. He doesn't want to be with me anymore and he said I need to be out by the end of the year. I am so depressed to start and now I know I won't have the motivation to do anything. I AM SO PATHETIC.
Posted by ClearSkies on November 12, 2007, at 7:12:58
In reply to really sad day, posted by 2tired4life on November 11, 2007, at 19:46:39
> I was informed today by my boyfriend of 3 years that my weight has driven him to want me out of the house. I have been saying for years that I want to lose weight and get down to a cuter weight. 130ish. He says I have no motivation and can not stick to any plan I set. This was harsh but true. I have not really tried too hard to do it. He doesn't want to be with me anymore and he said I need to be out by the end of the year. I am so depressed to start and now I know I won't have the motivation to do anything. I AM SO PATHETIC.
Perhaps it's time for a new boyfriend who can see the beauty he lives with and not the beauty he wants to live with? Gorgeous at any size!! And *not* pathetic. There is nothing wrong in wanting to improve how we feel about ourselves, but personally, I haven't found negative messages to be good at providing motivation for me in any area of my life.
Positive affirmations, attainable goals, what will make you feel good about yourself - this is where you'll find success!Nice to meet you, I'm ClearSkies.
Posted by llurpsienoodle on November 12, 2007, at 7:27:04
In reply to Re: really sad day » 2tired4life, posted by ClearSkies on November 12, 2007, at 7:12:58
Welcome 2-4
That sounds really discouraging. I wish that your boyfriend could see what a lovely person you are at any size. We all work on accepting and loving ourselves, and we need as much support towards that goal as possible. When we love ourselves we have more love for others. It's a shame that your guy doesn't realize that. I wonder if he's insecure? I think it's HIS issue, but boy it hurts when he tries to make it YOUR issue.
take good care,
ll
Posted by karen_kay on November 12, 2007, at 11:29:15
In reply to really sad day, posted by 2tired4life on November 11, 2007, at 19:46:39
((((((((((2t4l)))))))))
i'm sorry he's not very understanding about weight gain, especially if you're insecure about it yourself. BUTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!! you're not the one who's pathetic dear!!!!! depression causes me to gain weight for sure! and having someone tell me that i'm gaining weight wouldn't be helpful in aiding me to lose it, you know?
maybe you should rethink whether this person is someone you want in your life, regardless of your size.
Posted by Sigismund on November 12, 2007, at 20:11:56
In reply to really sad day, posted by 2tired4life on November 11, 2007, at 19:46:39
In Australia we have a prize called 'The Ernies' (from the Logies) and the prize is given to the most crass sexist comment made by a public figure.
The runner up this year was a man who, on inspecting the body of the woman he is on trial for murdering said to the attendant 'Can I have a look at her t*ts?' The winner was a politician who described another female politician as 'deliberately barren'.
People will so often treat others as means to an end. I don't think you exist to satisfy your bf's ideas about correct weight.
He's probably not being completely straightforward anyway.
Posted by Phillipa on November 15, 2007, at 11:53:22
In reply to Re: really sad day, posted by Sigismund on November 12, 2007, at 20:11:56
Since this is self-esteem I know the stomach I now have is depressing to me and I'm trying to do the ebay thing for self-esteem but mirror time hate my stomach and know if it were gone I'd like myself more the doc said with my tubal ligation could do sit-ups til blue in the face guess I did as did them for over 30 years and it's bigger and bigger now that is depressing since I don't eat. I think with the ob-gyn surgery will go for broke and and get it tucked. Was brought up to put emphasis on looks. and taught how to smile with lips closed. So after mother died when I was l7 no one to guide me so I'm winging it. Phillipa
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