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Posted by DannaB on December 22, 2006, at 22:15:05
I have an incredible Pdoc. I truly admire, respect and trust him. He is very wise and has helped me a lot. We've worked together consistently for the past year and a half.
I always feel that I lack social skills, am unpopular and am always rejected. He seems to feel that I have social skills, am popular, and that the rejection is mostly in my head. Basically, we are coming to the conclusion that I "see" failure when it isn't there, and that often when there is a neutral or negative comment I take it to heart when I really shouldn't.
I think he may be onto something...I know I'm very sensitive...but I don't have a clue how to change this stinking thinking.
Posted by LJRen on December 23, 2006, at 12:14:26
In reply to My Pdoc's take..., posted by DannaB on December 22, 2006, at 22:15:05
Hey DannaB!
In recognizing my version of my own stinking thinking I did some searching and came across this self-hypnosis CD. It's called Spiritual Protection & Healing and it takes negative energy that's in you & that comes from others and changes it to healing energy. There's a booklet that came with it and it claims that if you put the effort into it, it can change a lot. I don't know what your stand is on spirituality or metaphysics. It's an area I started learning about a couple years ago and what I've gathered so far makes sense to me. I don't automatically believe everything I read & hear but I try to keep an open mind and am willing to try something if it means I could lead a happier life. Here's the link to the site where I got the CD if you're interested. The description it gave is what sold me on it. Perhaps it might help you change your stinking thing.
https://www.reikiwebstore.com/ProductPage.cfm?ProductID=90&CategoryID=32
Take care,
Renp.s. It says $19.95 on the page but if you click buy, the next page will show you the discounted price of $17.95.
Posted by Phillipa on December 27, 2006, at 21:57:33
In reply to Re: My Pdoc's take... » DannaB, posted by LJRen on December 23, 2006, at 12:14:26
In the same boat minus the good pdoc and no therapist not my fault tried three in a few months. I would like to grieve my losses in life and my aging and they won't do it with me. So as usual I'm alone with my thoughts and my babbleland. Love Phillipa
Posted by ClearSkies on December 28, 2006, at 8:46:44
In reply to Re: My Pdoc's take..., posted by Phillipa on December 27, 2006, at 21:57:33
> In the same boat minus the good pdoc and no therapist not my fault tried three in a few months. I would like to grieve my losses in life and my aging and they won't do it with me. So as usual I'm alone with my thoughts and my babbleland. Love Phillipa
Phillipa, I think that your wishes to discuss specific issues with a therapist and their apparent failure to let you do so is a matter of therapeutic style.
I know that my pdoc "expects" that I'm working on tackling what's behind my insomnia, depression, anxiety, and agitation issues with my T. My expectation when I first started with her was that we'd be examining my past and discovering how it has contributed to my present complaints.
Her approach, though, has been less about what got me to where I am today, and more about how to deal with what I'm feeling today. Of course, I know that we are molded by our past experiences and that I'm where and who I am today because of what transpired in my life leading up to today.For me, I have to say that whatever will help me feel better and cope better with living day to day is the right treatment for me.
And please, please don't feel that your experiences with therapy are failures. I do think that having a specific expectation about the manner and way that therapy help you might contribute to your frustrations. What we think we need and the best way to go about it don't always see eye to eye...
my 2 cents
ClearSkies
Posted by Poet on December 28, 2006, at 16:55:53
In reply to My Pdoc's take..., posted by DannaB on December 22, 2006, at 22:15:05
Hi DannaB,
Man, do I identify with that stinking thinking. One of the reasons I started therapy is that I think I'm a *complete and utter failure.* Well, four years later it's down to just plain failure, so I guess that's improvement. My T's said I see failure when it's not there, too. I guess I need to start believing her and try not to believe that negative thought train that runs through my head.
Good luck on eliminating that stinking thinking.
Poet
Posted by Phillipa on December 28, 2006, at 19:16:01
In reply to Re: My Pdoc's take... » DannaB, posted by Poet on December 28, 2006, at 16:55:53
How is your therapist helping you deal with the stinking thinking? And thanks Clear Skies. Love Phillipa
Posted by Poet on December 29, 2006, at 11:37:04
In reply to Re: My Pdoc's take... » Poet, posted by Phillipa on December 28, 2006, at 19:16:01
Hi Phillipa,
Keep in mind that my T is a bit out there, which is why I chose her, right now I'm back to trying the Emotional Freedom Technique.
I was doing it a few years ago and then like everything I gave up because I didn't get immediate results. What it is is I gently tap various pressure points on my body while doing an affirmation: *Even though I have this (fear of failure or anxiety or whatever) I deeply and completely accept myself.
http://www.emofree.com/newcomer.htm
This website has some basic info. on EFT if you're interested. It's easy (I can do it) and my T swears by it so I'm giving it another shot.
In a more traditional therapy way, she's also trying to get me to reframe my thinking. When I say I'm a loser or a failure she stops me and says *that's old thinking, how can you reframe it.* Usually the reframing is something like, *despite my limitations, I've been successful in school, with my cats, owning a house, whatever is nonloser thinking.
I lucked out and found the right therapist on the first try. It's too bad that you haven't been able to click with one. Auditioning them must be stressful and you sure don't need any more stress in your life.
Poet
Posted by Phillipa on December 29, 2006, at 19:45:21
In reply to Re: My Pdoc's take... » Phillipa, posted by Poet on December 29, 2006, at 11:37:04
Thanks Poet and it's very frustrating and stressful and definitely don't need more stress. Love Phillipa
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