![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 4 of 4. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by rjlockhart on July 20, 2006, at 0:17:53
I dont know how much i am going, or what im about to type but i would really appricaite some responses because this has been bothering me for a very long time.
Since i was a kid, i seemed well from my perceptive, i got people's nerves, well i did. Thats what i can say. I have ADD for fact. But you what thats something im going to conquer. I dont know how to realate very well to people, alot of times in situations i dont know how to get out information, or tell stories, or something that i forgot to tell. Sometimes I lack enthusiasm when i get into a conversation because i feel that i will say it wrong, which i have in the past.... and humiliated me my self many times, thats why it made me the way i am. Alot of times i just dont feel like a have a personality, i feel im just a person "watching" other people.
When i was on stimulants this wasnt the case, i do think this does have something to do with ADD, socially impaired sometimes. But this is something that i want to conquer.
I think when we talk we talk about intrests, conterversy, debates, or just small talk. The reason i dont get into controversal talk is because of insecurites, "did i say it ok?" yea know that stuff. Alot of times i am not motivated to talk, which is kinda uncommon, because its natural to want to talk with people. But thats not the case with me. I have this problem "imprinted" on my head. Socially inhibited.
How do i get out of this?
matt
Posted by cloudydaze on July 20, 2006, at 18:46:51
In reply to Mentally Frustrated, Frustrated stressed out, posted by rjlockhart on July 20, 2006, at 0:17:53
> I dont know how to realate very well to people, alot of times in situations i dont know how to get out information, or tell stories, or something that i forgot to tell. Sometimes I lack enthusiasm when i get into a conversation because i feel that i will say it wrong, which i have in the past.... and humiliated me my self many times, thats why it made me the way i am. Alot of times i just dont feel like a have a personality, i feel im just a person "watching" other people.
***I can relate to this too. Sometimes I wonder if my brain works really really differently than everyone elses...
I tend to hold back a lot, for fear that I will humiliate myself, but I am told repeatedly (mainly by teachers) that I need to overcome this, and take chances - express myself....because I have good ideas a lot of the time.
Your thoughts are just as important as anyone elses! And, no one speaks or expresses themselves perfectly EVERY time. People are allowed to make mistakes - including you.What's the worst that could happen? You might get really embarrased, but everyone else is going to forget about it probably faster than you will! And then again, you might say something really awesome, or have a great idea....and find that you're really not as different as you think!
My boyfriend always tells me: "what's the worst that could happen? They can't take away your birthday!"
yeah I know it's silly....but he's right...i will always have my birthday...lol
You just need a little confidence :)
Posted by Dinah on July 20, 2006, at 18:49:38
In reply to Re: Mentally Frustrated, Frustrated stressed out, posted by cloudydaze on July 20, 2006, at 18:46:51
> My boyfriend always tells me: "what's the worst that could happen? They can't take away your birthday!"
I like that. As a person with tendencies toward catastrophising, I need a saying like that.
Posted by Phillipa on July 21, 2006, at 21:06:28
In reply to Re: Mentally Frustrated, Frustrated stressed out, posted by Dinah on July 20, 2006, at 18:49:38
Dinah a long time ago my therapist said the same to me then added. Well they won't put you up against a wall and shoot you will they? That made an impression on me and to this day when something I'm afraid of happens I repeat this to myself "What's the worst that could happen?" It kind of puts things in perspective and makes you think. Love Phillipa ps the s word was his word not mine. Unfortunately he died of Cancer a few years later. But he was a great therapist. I'd forgotten about him til now.
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Self-Esteem | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.