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Posted by ELA on April 9, 2002, at 7:26:40
Lou Pilder,
Your recent posts have been troubling me more and more. I find your manner threatening towards various people and am slightly fed up with your sanctimonious and demanding tone. You seem to think that you are an exception to the rules of this board and I find that offensive.
I am particularly disturbed by your posts to LiLi80 - she has been having a really tough time lately and I think you're being extremely unfair.
IsoM has been immensely helpful to me (and many others on this board) and I think you are well out of order having a go at her posts considering what you have been saying lately.
I respect your right to post here, as we are all entitled to do so, but please remember that words have a HUGE effect on people, especially those with our types of illnesses.
I know you were annoyed with Iso for saying it but please tone it downa bit for all our sakes. I generally enjoy your insights but I am hesitant to post anything on PSB now in case of a "Lou's response to..." or "Lou asks ELA for clarification of..." posts now. That violates my rights to this board and I should like you to note that.
Posted by Dr. Bob on April 10, 2002, at 1:30:48
In reply to To Lou - support for Iso and LiLi, posted by ELA on April 9, 2002, at 7:26:40
> Your recent posts have been troubling me more and more. I find your manner threatening towards various people and am slightly fed up with your sanctimonious and demanding tone. You seem to think that you are an exception to the rules of this board and I find that offensive.
>
> I am particularly disturbed by your posts to LiLi80 - she has been having a really tough time lately and I think you're being extremely unfair.
>
> IsoM has been immensely helpful to me (and many others on this board) and I think you are well out of order having a go at her posts considering what you have been saying lately.
>
> I respect your right to post here, as we are all entitled to do so, but please remember that words have a HUGE effect on people, especially those with our types of illnesses.
>
> I know you were annoyed with Iso for saying it but please tone it downa bit for all our sakes. I generally enjoy your insights but I am hesitant to post anything on PSB now in case of a "Lou's response to..." or "Lou asks ELA for clarification of..." posts now. That violates my rights to this board and I should like you to note that.Thanks for trying to be civil, I appreciate that, but some of your wording was still accusatory. Maybe one thing to try would be to put things in terms of what the other person might do better, rather than what they did "wrong". And some reactions are just better kept to yourself. As an example, here's a version with a little editing:
> Your recent posts have been troubling me more and more. I feel threatened by your manner and I am afraid others may also. You seem to think that you are an exception to the rules of this board.
>
> I am particularly disturbed by your posts to LiLi80 - she has been having a really tough time lately and I think we should support her.
>
> IsoM has been immensely helpful to me (and many others on this board) and I think she deserves our appreciation.
>
> I respect your right to post here, as we are all entitled to do so, but please remember that words have a HUGE effect on people, especially those with our types of illnesses.
>
> I know you were annoyed with Iso for saying it but please tone it downa bit for all our sakes. I generally enjoy your insights but I am hesitant to post anything on PSB now in case of a "Lou's response to..." or "Lou asks ELA for clarification of..." posts now. I should feel as free to post as you do and I should like you to note that.Maybe something like that? See also:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by ELA on April 10, 2002, at 3:09:36
In reply to Re: please be civil » ELA, posted by Dr. Bob on April 10, 2002, at 1:30:48
Posted by fi on April 11, 2002, at 10:42:52
In reply to To Lou - support for Iso and LiLi, posted by ELA on April 9, 2002, at 7:26:40
The tactic I have been using- and its not necessarily the right or best one- is not to read Lou's posts.
Fi
Posted by Mitchell on April 12, 2002, at 18:27:56
In reply to Re: please be civil » ELA, posted by Dr. Bob on April 10, 2002, at 1:30:48
> Thanks for trying to be civil, I appreciate that, but some of your wording was still accusatory. Maybe one thing to try would be to put things in terms of what the other person might do better, rather than what they did "wrong". And some reactions are just better kept to yourself. As an example, here's a version with a little editing:
>
> > Your recent posts have been troubling me more and more.
> > I should feel as free to post as you do and I should like you to note that.> Bob
Thanks for the effort to further clarify the stance and voice you prefer in posts to this board. If I may offer a slight addition to the edit, I would suggest:
>I have become more and more disturbed at your recent posts.
(A person can accurately report their reaction to a subject, but they cannot reliably claim that another's words caused their emotional reaction. Their reaction can as well be a reaction to an internal condition as an external stimulus.)
>I *would* (not "should") like you to note that.
Just a suggestion
SM
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