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Posted by Sarahh on September 8, 2003, at 3:06:05
Anyone have any idea if "Sociopaths" can be treated with a particular medication? PLEASE HELP my fiance of 11 years is really sick and I don't think I can go forward with spending the rest of my life with him after realizing his disorder and the fact that I've been his victim for 11 too many years now. I feel really sorry for him now that I understand it's a form of brain damage that he has. :( CAN ANYONE RELATE or does anyone have any information in regards to treatment for this HORRIBLE disorder?? CULT LEADERS are said to all be Sociopaths...Bin Laden for example. scary stuff. and very sad.
2 good links to checkout:
http://home.datawest.net/esn-recovery/artcls/socio.htm
http://members.tripod.com/lheanna/sociopat.htm
THanks,
Sarahh
Posted by sadmom on September 8, 2003, at 14:35:26
In reply to SOCIOPATHs....Can they be treated??, posted by Sarahh on September 8, 2003, at 3:06:05
My daughter acted like a sociopath until she started taking Abilify. Her old pdoc gave up on her and said she had a personality problem which couldn't be treated. He wouldn't prescribe Abilify for her, so I found another pdoc who would, and now she's a changed person.
Posted by KimberlyDi on September 9, 2003, at 9:22:20
In reply to SOCIOPATHs....Can they be treated??, posted by Sarahh on September 8, 2003, at 3:06:05
Sarah,
I think, the question for you is not "can they be treated." It's "can you save him"? Since it's you posting questions instead of him, it appears that he isn't seeking treatment. You cannot save him.Break free carefully and go live your life.
You might say "it's not fair to him." I'm here to say that it isn't fair to you. Beyond that, you're enabling his behavior by putting up with it. He must seek treatment by himself if he wants to.
Good Luck (and I mean that sincerely)
KDi in Texas
Posted by Arrianna on September 10, 2003, at 12:09:20
In reply to Re: SOCIOPATHs....Can they be treated?? » Sarahh, posted by KimberlyDi on September 9, 2003, at 9:22:20
S,
I agree with K. Sounds like you've been hanging in there, hoping he'll get better. But, unfortunately, unless he's motivated to get help, nothing will change.
After 11 years (wow!!), I'd assume that you don't want to give up on him that easily. And it sounds that if he finds the right med. (like sadmom's daughter), he could get better.
So, I'd ask yourself: do you love him Enough to stand by his side, and support him through treatment if he takes it? Are you willing to go the distance for him in the hopes he'll change and get better?
I'm sure after 11years, you've already thought about this. Yet, I'd really urge you to think about what is best for YOU. From your post, you sound tired. It's got to be exhausting for you, so please do what's right for you and focus on your needs, too.
Please keep us posted. We're here if you need us.Arrianna
Posted by worrier on September 11, 2003, at 19:02:46
In reply to SOCIOPATHs....Can they be treated??, posted by Sarahh on September 8, 2003, at 3:06:05
> Anyone have any idea if "Sociopaths" can be treated with a particular medication? PLEASE HELP my fiance of 11 years is really sick and I don't think I can go forward with spending the rest of my life with him after realizing his disorder and the fact that I've been his victim for 11 too many years now. I feel really sorry for him now that I understand it's a form of brain damage that he has. :( CAN ANYONE RELATE or does anyone have any information in regards to treatment for this HORRIBLE disorder?? CULT LEADERS are said to all be Sociopaths...Bin Laden for example. scary stuff. and very sad.
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> 2 good links to checkout:
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> http://home.datawest.net/esn-recovery/artcls/socio.htm
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> http://members.tripod.com/lheanna/sociopat.htm
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> THanks,
> Sarahh
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>Sarahh, can't relate to the specific "sociopath" problem you are dealing with, but having lived with someone with some major mental problems (Seasonal affective disorder,social anxiety and clinical depression) for over 20 years, I feel I must comment, though you probably aren't going to like it. My husband refused to admit he had any problems much less seek help until just over a year ago. He's much better now and in the long run I don't think I really regret staying with him. But there were alot of wasted years and lots of other regrets. I missed alot, for most of the time we've been together I've essentially been alone. Ironically, when he finallly got help for his problems, my panic/anxiety disorder which had been mild and required no treatment has exploded...now I'm the one who is screwing things up...but I'm seeing a pdoc and therapist and hopefully making some progress. Oops, got off track there, back to the point....you can't save him....you've stuck with him 11 years, that's 11 years of your life too, don't forget that. If he won't agree to seek help, you have to make up your mind whether you have 11 more years to give or if it's time to save yourself, that you can do. Wish I had something more positive to say. Just remember it's not his fault for having these problems but it's not yours either. Best of luck to you in whatever decision you make. Worrier.
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